The post is first a note to myself and then to every member of the Koztribe that would find this post useful to them.
I’m sure the title of the post has suggested to you that I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately and this is one of the reasons why my consistency on the blog has stalled a little. If you would be a bit honest with yourself you’d agree with me that the feeling of being overwhelmed is not something that far-fetched in this generation. We are constantly pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone so that we can emerge better than our neighbours and friends. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying getting away from your comfort zone or being successful is a bad thing but if you are doing it to prove a point, my dear, there is no need for it and you should stop it already.
According to an online dictionary, If you are overwhelmed by a feeling or event, it affects you very strongly, and you do not know how to deal with it. The truth is that was the state I was about a few weeks back. I got to know a truth that I’ve been shying away from and this affected everything around me. Even on my birthday, I wasn’t so excited as I ought to because something was eating me up seriously and I didn’t know what to do. I couldn’t even tell people around me what was wrong with me so I spent most of my evenings crying and avoiding friends and families altogether. As I sank deeper and deeper into this state, I knew that I had to do something fast but I wasn’t sure of what I was going to do. After several ‘family meeting with my thoughts”, I decided to turn to my God because the truth is that only God could understand how I felt at that point. Two of the most profound scriptures that eventually became my Anchor Verses during that period were:
Isaiah 49: 16: Indeed, I have inscribed [a picture of] you on the palms of My hands;
Your city walls [Zion] are continually before Me. (I inserted my name) Amplified Bible
Isaiah 41:13: “For I the Lord your God keep hold of your right hand; [I am the Lord],
Who says to you, ‘Do not fear, I will help you.’ Amplified Bible
Google was also helpful to me as I kept researching on articles about dealing with the feeling of being overwhelmed and it is out of the knowledge that I’ve gathered that I’m writing this post for someone that might be in need of it. Research has proved that young adult between the ages of 20-26 gets anxious and overwhelmed about life and if not properly addressed this can lead to depression and over mental illness.
Here are 5 tips that you can use to overcome that feeling of being Overwhelmed;
Learn To Prioritize
We wake up every day having a million and one things that we have to do but the truth is that not all of them are urgent and need your immediate attention. It is very important that you decide which activity is important and which is not. You mustn’t be on everyone’s bridal train neither can you be everyone’s best friend.
Remember That The Feeling that You Have Now is a Phase That Will Pass
Difficult seasons never last forever so don’t let that event, person or letter put you in an anxious position for so long. Remember when you thought of getting a job, buying a phone or gaining admission into the university was the only worry you had and you felt like these things will never come to pass? See, this too will pass. Anytime you are in a difficult situation, remind yourself that you overcame in the past and so you will still triumph over this.
Know That Saying NO Is Not A Crime
I wish there was another way to loud this more than I’m already doing. Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into accepting responsibilities or doing things that are ordinarily beyond you. Saying Yes always is one of the sources of feeling overwhelmed. If someone is asking you to do something, please don’t say yes purely out of a sense of obligation. Now, I’m not saying that you should refuse to help your colleague, friends or family what I’m saying is that you should not take it to the extreme by saying yes to EVERY request that comes your way.
Change Your Daily Routine
This can be as simple as taking a new route to work, eating something different, having a conversation with that Colleague of yours you never talk to or planning a trip out of where you currently reside. Sometimes doing something different is all that we need to get rid of that feeling of anxiety.
Learn To Take a Break/ Exercise
One thing I’ve learnt is that: Life will always go on with or without you. Don’t ever think that you are too important to your organisation, family, school or loved one to take a break. Whenever I’m feeling a too stressed I just shut down from all my technological gadgets so that means no access to social media. I take this time to meditate, stay longer in the shower, exercise or take long walks. They really help to cool off and rejuvenate your mind.
Talk To God
I’m sure you weren’t expecting to leave this point out. Afar as I am concerned, this is the most important tip that I can give anyone. You know the interesting thing about talking to God? it really doesn’t have to be structured, just think of God as your physical father and talk to him the way you’d talk to your dad when you want to talk to him about what has been bothering you. God is ever ready to help us, all we just need to do is come to him and he’d take it up from there. remember that you can’t talk to someone about your anxiety if you don’t necessarily have a relationship with the person; so you have to cultivate a relationship with your creator and not be that person that runs to him only when you have tried every other thing.
That’s it! I hope this was encouraging and remember that You can do whatever you put your mind to do.
Till I come your way in my next post, Let’s continue our conversation on the various social media platforms;