On Easter Sunday, we were given something to ponder upon by the Wellington family. Banky W and Adesua Etomi were vulnerable enough to share a testimony of God’s faithfulness in their lives. Adesua believes that sharing her story on the internet for all to see will surely strengthen someone’s faith out there. I totally supports this because this testimony firmly confirms my confidence in the fact that God is never late.
For the sake of people that are not Nigerians that read my blog, Banky W and Adesua are Nigerian Celebrity couples that we totally adore. When the news of their engagement first broke out in 2017, we were all elated about this union. We the internet cousins, nieces and Nephews spent hours online debating the best hashtag for this spectacular union. We also depleted hours gushing about how dazzling and angelic their offspring will be because, God, these two are graceful and gorgeous together.
Fast forward to April 2021, after the announcement of the arrival of their first child, they decide to share with us a testimony that x-rays the struggles of waiting on God for a miracle. As I watched this video for this 5th time, I felt a prompting in my spirit to jot down some of the salient points that were raised in this testimony of God’s faithfulness. All through this video, one principal point is the fact that there is nothing that God cannot do. He is also never late, He doesn’t leave us stranded and He is very involved in our pains.
Today, I will be sharing with you 5 profound nuggets that every believer should care about while they wait on God to come through for them with a phenomenal act.
Two Equally Yoked Will Chase Ten Thousands
As a believer, it is very paramount that you marry your kind. Marrying someone that shares a different value and faith from you is really not a wise choice. The truth is marriage is hard enough and no matter how loving and caring your spouse is, there will be challenges that will test the foundation of that union and if it is not built on a solid rock, then my dear, you are in for a rough ride. So save yourself of the headache and marry someone someone in faith.
This testimony of Banky and Adesua proved the scripture that says; one shall chase a thousand and two ten thousand. They shared experiences of how people trolled them everyday for two and half years because they couldn’t birth a child. Adesua in particular narrated how, every time she was tired and frustrated from waiting, she had the encouragement and faith of Banky W to fall back to. Throughout all their IVF appointments, they were by each other sides. She even mentioned that they participated in Nathaniel Bassey’s Hallelujah challenge together. The part of the story that sealed this point for me was when they mentioned that they wailed together after the evacuation of their twins fetus. For me, that is the apex of “being in this together.” At no point did one partner desert the other or blame the other for a not having a solution. They weathered the storm together; now that the worst is behind them, they can share the story together and laugh about God’s faithfulness.
Faith is One of God’s Love Languages
Have you ever heard of the concept love language? In case you don’t know there are 5 major love languages as explained by Gary Chapman. These love languages are;
- Act of service
- Physical Touch
- Words of Affirmations
- Giving Gifts
- Quality time
In simple terms, love language explains how a person receives love and and wants to be loved. For instance, if your love language is quality time but your partner loves to give you gifts because that is their love language, you will appreciate the gift but still feel like they are not loving you. This is because you prefer they spend time with you netflixing and chilling on the couch than spending so much money on gift.
Since God created us with this love language, it is also expected that he has a LOVE language. One of such love languages is FAITH, the book of Hebrews confirms this
"And without faith living within us it would be impossible to please God.[a] For we come to God in faith[b] knowing that he is real and that he rewards the faith of those who passionately seek him". Hebrews 11:6 (TPT)
The Word of God tells us that faith brings our hopes into reality and becomes the foundation needed to acquire the things we long for. It is all the evidence required to prove what is still unseen, (Heb 11:1). To have faith means to trust God without a doubt and God interpret this as our unwavering love for Him. In the story of Lazarus death and resurrection, we find Mary and Martha speaking the love language of faith. In john 11: 21-22 Martha said, “Master, if you’d been here, my brother wouldn’t have died. Even now, I know that whatever you ask God he will give you.”
If you read the previous verses before this, you’d discover that Jesus had been informed about Lazarus’ sickness but he didn’t show up until four days after his death. This must have been difficult for his family members because they informed Jesus about this because they had seen him heal the sick several times.
As believers, trusting God in the midst of waiting has to be the hardest thing ever. It is ever more difficult if you see God answering the prayers of people around you and yours is still pending. You rejoice when people they share their testimony of God coming through for them but you are still struggling with the fact tat God has gone silent on your request. Let’s not forget that you will have to deal with the world coming around to mock and scorn you when they can’t see the manifestation of God’s blessings in your life.
This was the situation Banky W and his wife found themselves. Adesua revealed that she was mocked online everyday for the two and half years while she was expecting the miracle of a child. In spite of all the scorns and sorrows they had to go through, this couple didn’t loose their faith. At every breaking point they turned back to the Father for strength.
Having faith in God will not stop you from crying or stop bad things from happening to you but your faith in God will heal you and keep you going. Whenever you are in a situation where it feels like God has totally gone mute, always remember that you serve a God this is never late, doesn’t lie and can’t leave you stranded.
Worship Is a Weapon and a Sacrifice
The New generation believer cringes at the word “sacrifice” because Jesus paid the ultimate price for us to be totally free but sacrifice is an important essence of worship. When the scripture says that God is looking for those that will worship him in spirit and in truth, I believe that what God was saying is that He is in search of a believer that is ready to give their will, heart, time, and possessions.
Solomon understood how this principle works. Remember when He worshiped God with so many animals and God was moved to give him a blank cheque? Yeah that is the sacrifice of praise we are talking about. Note that it wasn’t really the amount of animals that was sacrificed that moved God, it was the intentionality and the sincerity of heart of the worshipper.
No doubt, worship is a powerful weapon in the hands of the believer that knows how to use it. Worship is more than just singing melodious tunes and being all emotional. it is the actions we take as the worshiper that weaponizes our worship against the enemy. The truth is, it can be hard to worship when you are going through warfare, it will take a heart that is sold out to God to remember to worship when everything is falling apart.
This is what I mean, When Adesua and Banky W had gotten to their last, they fell back to worship. Like in the middle of an agonizing situation of loosing babies that they had been trying for, they found the strength to worship. I mean that is the highest sacrifice of praise you can give to God. When everything else fails, try worship. It will never disappoint you.
They never stopped worshipping God with fruit of their lips and their financial resources. At a point when they felt like they were done with trying for a baby, they joined the Hallelujah Challenge and just worshipped God. They danced their way into their miracle.
You see, worship has this unique power to shift atmospheres. I love the example shared in Acts 16, “About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone’s chains came loose.”
God calls out for an intimate relationship rather than a transactional one
What is your relationship with Jesus like, Transactional or relational? Are you one of those people that only call on God when they need help? or do you make out time out of your busy schedule to know him?
Having a relationship with Jesus is as simple as meeting someone new and being deliberate about cultivating a solid bond of fellowship that leaves a positive impression in their lives. This means that you will create time to hangout so that you can get to know them on a personal level.
At the point where you surrendered your life to Jesus, the next phase of your relationship should be getting to know him personally for yourself and that means studying the Bible, praying and also joining a community of believers like you. It is very important that we do away with the childish behaviour of using God as an emergency number.
If by chance, one of the couple didn’t have an intimate relationship with God, they would have gotten tired of waiting on God. The one that had a transactional relationship with Abba would have weighed the other one down. There would have been complains of have we not prayed enough?, Have we not been faithful with our tithe and offerings? So why is God not coming through for us? God is not 911 or 121 that we can just dial every time we are in trouble, as much as he will answer all the time, he wants more than this transactional dealings.
However, being in a relationship with God is not a fool proof against bad occurrence but your knowledge of him will help you trust him against all odds. Always remember that in the midst of your greatest storm, his peace will envelope you in a warm embrace and he will comfort you.
There is more to every Situation Than You Can See
This is not a spiritual lesson but just something I think everyone should be aware of. The fact that people are celebrities doesn’t give you the right to form an opinion about their lives. We get it that we live in an internet world and this has given people the opportunity to pass their pains on others but remember that celebrities are humans too.
I felt really bad when Adesua mentioned that everyday in the last two and half years was filled with internet trolls and untrue rumours about her family and their inability to bring forth a child into this world.
If you are one of those people that have the habit of leaving vile comments on celebrity posts or your job is to be watching every newly wedded bride’s belly for a sign of a baby bump then you should stop it. You don’t know the struggles that they have, so it is best to keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself.
As I bring this article to a close, I pray that we never forget that Faith dares to trust God to do the impossible. It sees the unseen. Faith does not look at circumstances; it looks to God. Faith does not listen to people; it trusts God’s Word. May we all get to that point where our faith is unwavering, a faith that doesn’t doubt the potency of God’s love and Words regardless of how impossible the situation looks like.